Kalmyk Cultural Heritage Project (FAMILY STRUCTURE AND RESPECT OF KIN)

Created: 2014-09-16 17:58
Institution: Department of Archaeology and Anthropology
Description: In Kalmyk culture the father represents the whole family and takes all-important decisions. The mother's role is to look after the household, bare, and bring up children. Being at the bottom of the family hierarchy, the children are supposed to obey their parents and support them in their old age. Children, especially young ones, are not supposed to participate in the conversations of elders and are taught to do household chores from an early age.
Relatives on the father's side (avgnr) enjoy special privileges and respect, which is reflected in their treatment and roles. For example, during celebrations they sit on the most prestigious seats, are the first to be given gifts as well as the right to utter the first well-wishes. Important decisions relating to the clan, including the performance of various clan rituals, weddings etc., are, as a rule, made by these relatives. Also, out of respect, the bride is not supposed to utter the names of her husband's paternal relatives. Instead, she has to find name substitutes or nick-names when addressing them. This name-calling prohibition, also known as hadmnh, is part of a wider tradition of name-tabooing. Paternal relatives are also expected to be more formal, demanding, and businesslike. In contrast, relatives on the mother's side (nagtsnr) are viewed as more forgiving and easy-going, which reflects traditional ideas about 'maternity' and 'femininity'. Their influence on clan-related matters is supposed to be only implicit.
On this page you can watch videos and listen to stories of how Kalmyks educate their children, venerate their elders, kinsfolk, and ancestors.
 

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Alena Lidzhieva, About Traditional Education

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Alena says that in her youth she could not go out freely. In general, children had to ask their parents for permission. Alena grew up without a mother. Alena’s father never...

Collection: Kalmyk Cultural Heritage Project (FAMILY STRUCTURE AND RESPECT OF KIN)

Institution: Department of Archaeology and Anthropology

Created: Fri 12 Jun 2015


Irina Lidzhieva, About Learning From Elders

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Irina recalls that when she was young, old men always emphasized the importance of daily prayers. Hence, Irina prays every morning as soon as she gets up. She prays for the...

Collection: Kalmyk Cultural Heritage Project (FAMILY STRUCTURE AND RESPECT OF KIN)

Institution: Department of Archaeology and Anthropology

Created: Fri 19 Jun 2015